Question:

I work in health care, and am a person of faith. Can I talk with my patients and families about my faith?

Probably not. The biggest thing your own faith can do is help you show up for your patients and families with compassion, patience, and respect. Trust us, that is huge. 

On topics as tender and personal as faith, we must always follow the lead of our patients and families. Their vulnerability and searching is not an invitation for your certainty. Instead, offer to connect them with the Spiritual Care team at your place of work who navigate these waters constantly, with deep training and a specific code of ethics for this. You could say something like "We have people on our team who are expert at meeting you where you are, and helping you grapple with these big questions. They serve people of all traditions, and of no tradition at all. They're really helpful, and really good listeners. Can I have them contact you to be of support?" 

The one time you CAN talk about your own faith is if the PATIENT or FAMILY voluntarily talks about their faith, and you can commit to sticking precisely within what they're already saying. "I hear you. Faith is important to me too. With your permission, I'll keep you in my prayers." This means you're not trying to convert and you're not even trying to educate — you're trying to accompany them and help them feel seen. That plus your medical expertise and human kindness is more than enough.